Well, I'm back. I solved the ListBox problem by using a ContextMenuStrip — or so I thought!
It comes in perfect, then in a quarter second, two things happen: it disappears, and the TreeNode unselects.
But for that quarter second, it looks perfect!

The way that progresses is, I step through the lines of code on the right of the screenshot, 5 lines, then one more F11, and it appears for a 1/4 second, and the TreeNode UNSELECTS.
But here's another interesting thing:
In Design Mode, I clicked the reference to contextMenuStrip1 in the dialog bar beneath the Form, and it appears in the place I dropped it.
Then a click on the TreeView (white as I suppose you know) and it disappears.
Ah, but then I take the mouse and pull the TreeView over to the right, again click the reference below, again the ContextMenuStrip appears, then I click the TreeView, and AGAIN it disappears!
What am I missing, dear friends? Something to do with the focus?
Much obliged for any help.


Got it! I found that responding to Closing could be stopped for study with a break point. Then poked around in the Properties, and tried a few things. Then ultimately googled and found the answer at Do not close ContextMenuStrip on selection of certain items. I added AppFocusChange as not a reason to close.
So far, I'm now able to click the members and select them. Progress!
Then, at DoChoice, I'll invoke the Add or Edit accordingly, and always returna Close to the strip.